Is there ever a circumstance in which you should go with an attacker to a secondary location? 

Imagine this scenario: An attacker blindsides you by jumping into the backseat of your car just as you’re about to exit your vehicle. He puts a gun to the back of your head and demands that you drive away NOW. It’s a quiet parking lot, and a quick scan of your peripheral vision tells you there’s no one around to see or witness what’s going on, much less to come to your rescue. The fight-or-flight response kicks in, and you’re forced to make a split-second decision. Afraid of being shot and killed on the spot, do you do what he says and drive away? Or, do you risk him following through and pulling the trigger while you attempt to exit the vehicle immediately?


There’s no doubt that this is one of the most terrifying experiences any human can imagine. The fact is that each of our abilities is different, the intentions of every attacker are different, and there are countless variables to take into consideration. Regardless of those variables, here’s the most important, non-negotiable rule of thumb: NEVER ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE TAKEN TO A SECONDARY LOCATION. This is a decision you must make NOW, rather than in the panic of the moment. It’s a decision you must be resolute on to give you the best chance of surviving the attack.

What if the attacker has a gun or weapon? 

While this would be unquestionably terrifying, think about the situation logically.

  1. This moment is the last in which you have the control. Do you want to take the reins now, even at the risk of being shot or injured, or do you want to leave your fate in the attacker’s hands?  
  2. He’ll have a gun at the secondary location, too. If a gun scares you now, imagine how much scarier it will be when he’s taken you to an unknown location. Who knows what trauma you’ll endure at his hands somewhere else. 
  3. Your survival rate dramatically decreases at crime scene number two. Wherever he’s wanting to take you, there will be no one around to hear or see what’s going on. The attacker will have no reason to keep you alive or safe. You’re not likely to have your phone or any means of finding help at a secondary location.

Be smart; trust your gut.

In the event of an immediate personal threat, the unwavering resolutions must be to 1) fight for yourself, and 2) not be taken to a secondary location. Beyond that, trust your gut. If a weapon is at your back, assess whether or not you’ll have a moment to take the assailant off guard. If you have time to think or strategize, do it. Will he be distracted at some point, giving you an opportunity to flee? Or, on the other hand, is this the last opportunity it appears you’ll have before being taken? Look for opportunities to draw attention to yourself and your attacker. Your mind is your most lethal weapon. Use it and trust your gut. Never forget your value and that you are worth fighting for. You are irreplaceable! I’m walking women through this invaluable concept in our 6-Week Challenge on my private Facebook group

Keep yourself safe.

As the saying goes, an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. I’d never assert that all attacks are preventable or that any one strategy will ward off every single attacker. However, research shows that there are certain simple techniques that deter most attackers. Awareness is key! Make eye contact with people as you walk by. Don’t hesitate to turn around and confidently look someone in the eye if they’re following too closely. Eliminate distractions and be hyper-aware of your surroundings when walking to your car or walking in public. Keep your car doors locked at all times, especially when you stop at the gas station, red light, or the mailbox. Practice locking the car doors at a moment’s notice so that it becomes second nature. Inform your family and children on these techniques and have them practice them, too. You deserve to be empowered around your safety, and you’re fully capable of doing so. 

I’m with you!